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The Danger Zone
Anger
is just one letter short of danger -- it's true in English
as well as in practice. Dr. Bedford Williams at Duke University
has determined that students who scored high on a "hostility
test" were in far greater danger of dying young than their
peers.
In fact, those who were prone to anger were in greater physical
danger than those who smoked, had high blood pressure or even
high cholesterol.
Here are four simple steps to help move
you out of the danger zone when you feel as if your hostility
is managing you, rather than the other way around:
1. Control it. As one well-known
writer once said: "Speak when you are angry and you will
make the best speech you will ever regret."
2. Talk it out. Don't keep it in
and let it fester.
3. Act on it. Do what needs to be
done to resolve the situation. Helplessness will only provoke
more anger and, eventually, despair.
4. End it. Just as there was a starting
point for your anger, there must be an ending. Make a decision
not to prolong destructive hostility and you will find yourself
healthier and happier.
Do NOT forget that for every minute you're
angry, you lose sixty seconds of
happiness. Are you ready to find peace?
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